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Depression During the Holidays: Tips from a Christian Counselor

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Lisa Velin

Nov
2013
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Depression During the Holidays: Tips from a Christian Counselor

Lisa Velin

DepressionIndividual Counseling
For many people, the holiday season is a time when they feel like an “outsider.” Everyone else seems to be surrounded by love and warmth while you feel alone, cold, and in the dark. As you walk through department stores to do a little Christmas shopping, attend work parties, and even as you sit in church surrounded by people singing Christmas carols, you cannot shake off the feeling of a dark, deep depression. This seems to build up inside of you with increasing intensity, even as you outwardly observe the joyfulness of the season.

You Are Not Alone

The thought of joining family members to celebrate Christmas may fill you with dread, resulting in feelings of guilt. Painful memories may reappear each Christmas, making you want to crawl into a hole and just wait it out. Perhaps you have lost someone close to you, and Christmas makes you think of him or her. This is the message I want you to hear: You are not alone. There are ways to cope and even to be able to partake in a little joy during the season. Here are some suggestions that can help you during this time.

1) Acknowledge Your Feelings

Take time to listen to the chatter going on inside you. What is it that is making you feel sad? What is triggering your depression? Write about the memories you have of your lost loved one. Sometimes our present depression is rooted in past experiences that go back as far as childhood. Often the professional help of a Christian counselor can be a healthy tool to help you talk about your memories and past experiences. This cannot only assist you in getting through this holiday season productively, but it can also enable you to reach new levels of enjoyment and insight.

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2) Reach Out

As you recall certain memories of your loved one, you may want to share them with another trusted person. If you find yourself spiraling into a dark pit, perhaps you can find the energy to attend a social gathering or even to volunteer an hour of your time at a local shelter or community organization. Consider calling a friend who lives out of state, or reach out and approach a Christian counselor during this season. Remember that even though you may feel alone, you do not have to be alone.

3) Be Realistic

If you are hosting a Christmas gathering, consider your time and energy levels and decide what you are really capable of doing based on this. Assign tasks to others once you have clarified your own limits. Do not be afraid to ask for help, and admit where you feel limited. If there are major, ongoing differences between family members, acknowledge that Christmas is not going to be the “perfect” time. Set aside those differences and ask for emotional support from a trusted other. Budget what you can and cannot spend on gifts this year, and plan ahead as much as possible.

4) Take a Breather

Set aside an hour here and there so that you can rejuvenate. Book a massage. Read a good book. Light candles and listen to music. Whatever it is you do to relax, take time to do it. If this brings feelings of guilt, press on through those feelings. You need this time in order to make the most of the holiday season.

Look Ahead

Don’t let the holidays become something you dread, but rather take concrete steps to prevent the stress and depression that can descend on you during the holidays. Learn to recognize your holiday triggers, such as financial pressures or personal demands, so that you can combat them before they lead to a meltdown. With a little planning and some positive thinking, you will be able to find peace and joy during the holidays. Please do not remain an “outsider” and freeze to death during this season of warmth.

Consider Seeking Help From a Christian Counselor

If you are someone who dreads the holiday season, remember that there is help available. This article has outlined some of the steps that you can take so that you don’t have to remain an “outsider” to the joy of the season. One of these steps could involve contacting a Christian counselor who can accompany you as you work through the emotions that this season evokes in you.
References
Stress, Depression and the Holidays: Tips for Coping (Mayo Clinic staff).
Depression During the Holidays: Gripped by the Archetype of the Outsider. Published on December 19, 2011 by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. in Attending to the Undervalued Self

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I’m a firm believer in the limitless possibilities for redemption through faith in Christ. I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Clinical Supervisor with extensive experience in bilingual counseling, and helping people work through anxiety, depression, women’s issues, and trauma. I understand what it feels like to go through dark, seemingly hopeless times, but I know that everything God brings you trough will shape you into all you are meant to become. Working with you is an honor, and I’m dedicated to helping you learn, heal, and grow as you work towards a future that is made new in Christ. Read more articles by Lisa »

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I’m a firm believer in the limitless possibilities for redemption through faith in Christ. I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Clinical Supervisor with extensive experience in bilingual counseling, and helping people work through anxiety, depression, women’s issues, and trauma. I understand what it feels like to go through dark, seemingly hopeless times, but I know that everything God brings you trough will shape you into all you are meant to become. Working with you is an honor, and I’m dedicated to helping you learn, heal, and grow as you work towards a future that is made new in Christ. View Lisa's Profile

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