Relationship Advice for Women
Jessica Burgans
Are you looking for relationship advice for women, and don’t know where to look? Do you want biblically-based advice that you can count on? Here are several pieces of advice taken from Bible verses that can guide your relationships.
Relationship advice for women is often needed when women hit snags with their friends, family members, coworkers, dating partners, or other people. Use these biblical principles to navigate the snags that you may have run into in your relationships.
Enjoy your stage of life.
I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows, I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. – 1 Corinthians 7:7-8
Whether you are single, married, divorced, or widowed, you can learn to enjoy your stage of life. God may have you in this current stage of life for a short season or a long period. The key is to cultivate satisfaction with the Lord during your current stage of life.
An important part of learning to enjoy your stage of life is to connect with others who are in that stage with you. For example, if you are a young mom with little kids, you will enjoy the fellowship, affirmation, and shared ideas from other young moms like you. this principle is true no matter what stage of life you are in, including single and unattached, dating, married with no kids, married with children, empty nest, divorced, widowed, or any other.
When overwhelmed, reach out for help.
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. – Galatians 6:2
You aren’t meant to handle your burdens by yourself when you feel overwhelmed. That’s why it’s important to cultivate healthy relationships so that people are there for you when you need help. Many women feel overwhelmed with everything they have to do, and being overwhelmed is a cue for you to reach out for help.
Depending on the kind of help you need, reach out to someone available and willing to help. This may be a one-to-one friendship, or you could ask for help from a group of people or your church. Do you need practical help like babysitting, home repair, or a big project? go to the person you know is skilled in that area and then humbly and graciously accept their help.Remember that God doesn’t want us to do this life alone. He has put people around you who are qualified and ready to help you when you feel overwhelmed. Don’t be afraid to reach out; just pick up your phone and text or call someone, so you will feel less overwhelmed.
Mentor and be mentored.
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. – Titus 2:3-5
Women need other women of all different ages. You can glean wisdom from women who are older than you and who have more life experience than you do. Also, you can pour into a younger woman’s life the wisdom and life experience that you have gained.
Being mentored and being a mentor is an important aspect of spiritual and relational growth. Contact your church leadership to learn about women who are available to mentor you, and younger women whom you can mentor. This will be a double-sided blessing to you.
Cultivate godly friendships.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. – Proverbs 17:17
Godly friendships will lift you up and encourage you when you need help. They also give you an opportunity to offer encouragement and affirmation to others. Friends are also meant to share fun and support. The time you invest in friendships will be paid back double to you.
However, be careful to choose friendships that will lead you toward God, not away from him. It’s easy to be influenced by your friends, so you want to pick friends who will build you up rather than tear you down.Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with friends. If you feel encouraged, they are likely to be good friends for you. If you regularly feel unhappy, confused, or irritated, it may be time to search for a different friend who will be a godly influence in your life.
Practice the golden rule.
So, whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets. – Matthew 7:12
Every relationship you have will be blessed by putting the golden rule into practice. In every interaction you have, ask God to help you treat others the way you would want to be treated. Do this not to receive for yourself, but to show Jesus to others through your words and actions. The golden rule is one of the best pieces of advice, though it can be difficult to put into practice. Pray that God will help you put it into play even in the hardest relationships you have, and you will be blessed.
Be kind, compassionate, and forgiving.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. – Ephesians 4:32
Kindness, compassion, and forgiveness are keys to helping all of your relationships succeed. By showing kindness, you put the golden rule into action. By being compassionate, you choose to see beyond just the person standing in front of you and empathize with their hidden hurts. By forgiving repeatedly, you keep a cleaner slate with people while fending off bitterness and resentment. These three virtues are ready and available to you through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Show love to the sinner by confronting the sin.
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ. – Ephesians 4:15
Every human relationship is imperfect and affected by sin. There will be times you need to apologize, and times that you will need to confront the sin in others. But when you need to confront, be sure to speak the truth in love. Not merely truth that is harsh and cold, nor only love, which denies the problem that must be addressed.
Ask God to help you speak the truth in love when confronting and consider practicing your confrontation with one or two godly people before you take action. Seeking this wisdom will guard against becoming extremely angry or shrinking back in fear.
Keep asking, seeking, and knocking.
Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. – Matthew 7:7
Are you dissatisfied with your relationships? Maybe you are seeking a new friend or a new dating partner. Perhaps you would like to fill in the gaps of your broken family relationships by seeking someone to be a father or mother figure to you.
It’s important to keep asking, seeking, and knocking when God prompts you to look for new relationships. Don’t give up and keep looking in healthy places where you’re likely to find a relationship that will bless you. Ask your godly friends to help, and don’t hesitate to seek advice from your pastor or even a Christian counselor.
Relationship advice for women through Christian counseling.
Relationships are complicated, especially when they are problematic. You can find clarity and practical help for your relationship issues by speaking to a Christian counselor. Your counselor will help you dig into the roots of your relationship problems so you can make healthier choices in the future. Contact us today to learn more about Christian counseling for women’s issues.
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